After writing my article: Baby Prep: Must Have List, I wanted to specifically address the number of things that we will not be getting, since I found “Not Needed” lists almost as helpful as the “Must-have” lists.
Let me preface this with stating these are items that my husband and I deemed unnecessary for us. Your life may require something completely different! And guys, that is totally ok. We shouldn’t feel ashamed for making choices that are based on what is best for our families or situations. We’re also giving ourselves the grace to change our minds, since life is full of surprises and re-evaluation is a valuable tool. That said: list time!
Baby shoes
No. You can barely keep socks on those wigglers, why would you need shoes? If you think about shoe’s function (protecting your feet walking) it really doesn’t make sense till they’re…WALKING. Even then, they really have to be walking independently, rather than being supported by you since that usually happens in a padded or controlled environment. Unless they’re learning to walk on a gravel road? Pass these by and get something useful instead.
Short Baby Socks, Leg Warmers or Knee pads
I’m opting for long baby sock that will serve as leg warmers, knee pads, subtle pants, mittens and socks.
Baby Mittens
I’m getting some long socks and nail clippers. I don’t want this extra laundry.
Baby Headbands and Bows
These are mostly for girls but I wouldn’t get them for either sex. I don’t wear headbands generally myself since they give me headaches and I don’t really want to coordinate accessories for someone else. Less, often equals simpler for me. If we do have a girl, she can pick out her own when she’s older if she wants.
Winter clothes
We live in South Florida, so the coldest it gets here depends on your AC unit. This means we can eliminate jackets, snow pants, boots and all but one or two hats (hospital hats will work for us for the short time our newborn will need them.)
Fancy outfits
Man, I can barely keep my “fancy” clothes looking fresh and I’m a full grown adult. Why would I think a fluid machine like a babe would be able to?
Baby hangers
No outfits that can wrinkle easily will last long in our home anyway. And since I don’t plan on fancy outfits there’s two items less in one go! If you do want some outfits that should be hung, grab a few of your own hangers. They’ll work.
Car seat Cover
A blanket or swaddler will serve.
Burp cloths
I have kitchen towels, cloth napkins and swaddlers. For now, I really don’t want to have to deal with another piece of fabric to wash.
Breastfeeding cover
Guess what? A swaddler will serve! Just tie two corners, loop over your head and voila! Saved $20.
Baby food blender
Have you guys seen the Baby Bullet? I saw it and thought, “Cool, cool, I could save dough making my own baby food and cut out a ton of preservatives! But what is the difference between this and my magic bullet?” The answer? The Baby Bullet has less power. Yep. So if you have some kind of blender or food processor and you like it, utilize your current resources and pass on this.
Baby washcloths
If you have washcloths, those are fine. I doubt your baby will notice the difference.
Hooded towels
You’ve got regular towels that work from years 1 to 110. These just aren’t needed.
Side note: Guys, what is with all the extra fabric items? Noticing a trend here!
Shopping cart covers
I can either babywear, use a carseat or wipe the cart down. It just doesn’t appeal to me to have to set up a fabric cover when I got plenty of other things to occupy my time and energy.
Special baby shampoo, conditioner, body wash or lotion
Unless your baby has exhibited sensitivity, you don’t need to invest in these. I would say to go for something simple and natural but it doesn’t need to be name brand. We use Dr. Bronners unscented soap in our daily life anyway and fair trade shea butter. As for the shampoo? The soap will work for that too. Any hair shorter than 3 inches is getting moisturizing oils from the scalp anyway (how many short haired guys you know use conditioner?) Soap is good enough.
Crib and everything that goes with
We’re not getting a crib. You can see my article and rationale here. This means that we don’t need to get sheets, curtains, bumpers, blankets, crib ruffle and mobile. Talk about a money and space saver!
Changing station
When I say “Changing Station” I mean a piece of furniture dedicated only to changing a baby’s diaper on and the accoutrements. All you really need is a hard flat surface and a cover (sometimes not even that!) Floor and swaddle? Table and kitchen towel? Couch and prayer? Good enough.
Side note: I am prepping a couple “changing bags” to have stashed by where our baby will sleep and the main living area. Our place isn’t big so we could probably pass on this but I don’t want to have to search for anything further than arm’s length for those midnight changes.
Changing Mattress and covers
See above.
Diaper pail and diaper genie
We will be cloth diapering and using a large wet bag instead, which can be hung on a door handle or toted around.
Wipe warmer
I’ve read a lot of reviews on this and 9 out of 10 say its just not worth the effort, isn’t nearby when they need it or wipes just get dried out. One or two said that it was a lifesaver for midnight diaper changes. Just seems like something else to maintain to me, and we will be using cloth wipes and straight up water from the tap, so I’ll just let the water warm up if I need a warm wipe.
Humidifier/ Air filter
Again, we live in Florida so humidity is not in short supply. We also have house plants that are known air purifiers which I think is much prettier and renewable resource!
Diaper bag
We’re going to use backpack. A normal backpack. I like the idea of a backpack because it leaves us hands free and is more inherently unisex for my husband and I to share. Diaper bags can work well, but why not get a nice bag or backpack that you (or your child) could use when your child is 12 years old? Or maybe instead of a bag that clearly says “mom” on it, get one that you or your husband could use for business or travel later on.
Side note: My husband is currently in charge of getting a backpack so I have no idea what the bag will be, but I know he’ll like it, which is the main thing for me (I really don’t want to carry it!) Will update once I find out what it is.
Unitaskers
I first heard this phrase in the latter half of one of my favorite podcasts of all time, Simple Life Together and you can hear this specific episode here. These refer to any devices that only do one thing (sometimes they don’t do that one thing very well either.) Examples include the egg peeler, tomato saver, or banana slicer. In baby things these include the diaper cream applicator, baby mittens, burp cloths, etc. These items are for a specific task, short phase, and don’t transfer well to other tasks or phases. When purchasing just ask yourself a few questions: Is it worth the investment? Is there an alternative that you already have, will last longer or work better, even though it doesn’t say “baby,” “diaper” or “infant” in the product name?
Whew! Imagine how much space, time and money would be wasted if we purchased all of the above! This list of Must Not Haves could grow daily with all the products that companies come up with to sell to new and current parents. What baby purchases would you say “pass” on? Any unitaskers you guys have seen? Please comment below, I love to hear! So, instead of comparing yourself with people who have the most (HGTV), try comparing with those who have to least (think huts) to get a perspective on what is really needed for this new phase and factor in your current lifestyle for a good starting place. We can do this.
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